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  主題: 屋企好大壓力
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發表版面: 寫我心情   發表於: Wed May 27, 2009 6:14 pm   主題:
了解你對面的是一個大難題,之前的留言並非針對,只是不願意見到一個好女生因為不肖的家人而活在傷痛中。 希望他們會FEEL到你在給他們通牒吧!
  主題: 我答應了他的求婚, 我還是和他分手了, 我做錯了嗎??
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發表版面: 愛情長短跑   發表於: Wed May 27, 2009 6:09 pm   主題:
其實我覺得樓主一點錯也沒有。 誰不想結婚後有安穏的生活,我不是說要男生養起整個家,但起碼兩口子有儲蓄,有能力建立家庭。但現在問題在於: 1) 男友的用錢觀念真的教人沒安全感 2) 男友的家人隨時會變負累 (我說的不是那些不能預計的疾病意外,而是自身的亂花錢碌卡態度) 3) 假如2發生的話,男友又會義無反顧地照顧家人。而基於1,男友本來就不會存錢,那最終受害人就是樓主啦。 希望樓主你早日走出傷痛,找到一個跟你價值觀相同的人吧!
  主題: 有無人同我一樣擔心
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發表版面: 寫我心情   發表於: Tue May 26, 2009 7:48 pm   主題:
沒有甚麼好擔心的,量力而為才安心。沒錢扮有錢才要擔心,因為你不知道甚麼時候被發現你是在「充」的。 我結婚時一件首飾都沒有,可能有人覺得怪(但假如他們夠膽俾說話我聽,我會問番佢地:「我不想當聖誕樹,怎樣﹖」) 我是情願有錢好好儲起來建立家庭。
  主題: 屋企好大壓力
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發表版面: 寫我心情   發表於: Tue May 26, 2009 1:06 am   主題:
看過你的POST和其它人的回應,我覺得: 1) 如果你把FORUM當成是情緒垃圾桶的話,那沒問題,我相信大家不介意聽你說你有多慘。 2) 如果你想解決問題的話,我想很多人給你了很多建議:報警/社工、搬走、CUT家用,問題在於你要不要走出困局。 祝你早日找到方向!
  主題: 有無姊妹同我一樣...婚後猶豫緊生唔生bb
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發表版面: 婚後生活   發表於: Thu Jan 29, 2009 5:10 pm   主題:
對呀!我是認同有仔趁嫩生(當然是要父母雙方都心智成熟、經濟穏定時)。我也覺得對我來說,要生的話現在也是最好時機。 1) 我的兩天工作也是home office,偶爾要出差。所以我想是可以邊工作邊湊小朋友的。但若有BB應付不來,我家相公說我可以辭工。(當然我不想這樣做,因為一旦離開了職位,就很難返回職場。尤其在歐洲,他們很不願意聘請外國人的) 2) 我家相公是希望小孩組合是EITHER 0 或2 (因為他怕獨生小孩會不懂跟人相處),那如果是2的話,可能也得3-4年時間去製造。我不想等到近4字頭還未收工。 昨晚他又在說小孩的事情,問我如果有小孩,我們要不要另租大一點的房子。我看他是開始在給自己洗腦。不過我還是15、16呀!
  主題: 同居
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發表版面: 愛情長短跑   發表於: Mon Jan 26, 2009 10:53 pm   主題:
明報的調查又證明不了甚麼﹖假如它調查:有多少%的拍拖個案,會修成正果(結婚)﹖我估%會更低。 本人覺得同居與否是很個人的決定,只是覺得Quote這種偽科學數據,很難說服人。
  主題: 有無姊妹同我一樣...婚後猶豫緊生唔生bb
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發表版面: 婚後生活   發表於: Mon Jan 26, 2009 6:04 pm   主題:
我們最近也在考慮這個問題,個案跟RONIE也有點像。 交代一下背景:我現住在歐洲,每周工作兩天(生活沒在香港那麼忙),剛三字頭,結了婚兩年。 我的顧慮是:怕痛、怕變醜樣(身材)、怕辛苦(不能想出去玩就出去玩)、怕影響到工作(因為長遠我是想找全職的,只是剛搬要歐洲,要重新學語言)、本人沒耐性 Positive 的地方:BB有時也很可愛,我家相公也很有愛心(我相信他是個比我稱職的家長),雙方長輩會很高興,多了一個小孩,經濟也沒甚麼影響。 現在要考慮的就是:我是否甘心TRADE OFF我的自由時間和有可能找到的全職工作,去換一個BB。 我想我還要多考慮一陣子才下決定,很煩呀!
  主題: 召集 Mixed Couples
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發表版面: 海外註冊/中港婚姻
   發表於: Mon Jan 26, 2009 5:50 pm   主題:
Oh lucky you that your parents are so open. when is your big day? and will you live in the UK or HK afterwards?
  主題: 召集 Mixed Couples
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發表版面: 海外註冊/中港婚姻
   發表於: Tue Dec 23, 2008 4:56 pm   主題:
Hi gals, Merry Christmas! i was busy with work and christmas presents hunting (gotta get many for the whole clan, as we are travelling back to austria, where my hubby is from, for christmas). i hope you all enjoy this time with your beloved ones!
  主題: 召集 Mixed Couples
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   發表於: Mon Dec 08, 2008 7:54 pm   主題:
Hi Sisilu, so if i understand it right, you don't want to 入門 into a HK hotel and your family doesnt want you 出門 from a Malay hotel. that is pretty difficult to solve, either you change your mind or your family gets open (i guess more difficult). i know a case is that the gal, who stayed at a so called relative (好疏的那種),for the 出門. do you have such a relative in Malaysia (or vice versa, does your bf have some kind of relatives in hk?) Hi 肥大大, nice to have you here. in my case, we didn't make any sis / brother groups (because we r super-lazy for making wedding, so as simple as possible). i had a maid of honor and my hubby's best friend came from austria to be the best man. it depends if you would have a sis group, if yes, maybe you gotta find some brothers for your hubby.
  主題: 召集 Mixed Couples
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   發表於: Thu Dec 04, 2008 8:37 pm   主題:
wow, that s scary worrrr. but as you mentioned, you would have one wedding in HK and one in Malaysia, can you make the HK one as your family requested (so your bf & his family come to hk for the wedding, stay in a hotel and you guys do the bride picking up between your home and the hotel where the boy's family stay)?? i would find it strange if a bride gets picked up twice (if your family required the same thing for the malaysia wedding). maybe it is even 唔吉利,maybe you try to bargain with your family. my mum also wanted me to do the bride picking thing but i refused (coz i was having a western wedding, only 針茶 at hotel before the banquet). try to tell your family that you have many things to fix (for moving to malaysia n also the big day) and ask them to reduce your workload la. good luck!
  主題: 召集 Mixed Couples
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發表版面: 海外註冊/中港婚姻
   發表於: Wed Dec 03, 2008 11:29 pm   主題:
Hi Sisi, i was on holiday (in HK) so didn't reply you early. the picking up bride issue is really ad-hoc. in my case, i got married in hk and we stayed at my mum's place and went the next day together for wedding (we skipped the bride picking coz we didn't care about this). in europe, if it s a church wedding, it is often that the groom waits at the church with the guests and the bride arrives with her family, at the appointed time. but if your (and ur bf's) family are more chinese, then they may stick more with the picking-up-bride procedure. i guess you can stay in a hotel, and he picks u up there (n plays some games if you like). hope it helps n hope you have a nice wedding and smooth move to malaysia! keep us updated of your story! mermaid
  主題: 意大利威尼斯行禮
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   發表於: Wed Dec 03, 2008 11:23 pm   主題:
威尼斯現在大水浸呢!除非你精通意大利文,又有大把時間、金錢、心機去搞,OTHERWISE,去那裏行禮一定是很麻煩的。
  主題: 有搬到歐洲的姐妹嗎﹖
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發表版面: 婚後生活   發表於: Tue Nov 18, 2008 9:04 pm   主題:
Hi Jojo, thanks ahh!! i am quite lucky that i get an offer so soon (was so afraid that i gotta wait for a long time.. you know the economy is not good, anywhere in the world) n i have written more on my blog about my life in germany. you gals are all welcomed to have a look. let me send you a PM.
  主題: 有搬到歐洲的姐妹嗎﹖
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發表版面: 婚後生活   發表於: Mon Nov 17, 2008 9:23 pm   主題:
Hi Ronie, it is so nice that you replied (i saw you and the other gals in UK having nice chats, but couldn't 搭咀) luckily i got a job offer (part time) in Oct, so i have started working (but the office is very far away, so i work mostly from home.. so haven't got to see many locals)... all in all, i m quite settled here but i do hope to meet more people are you used to live in the UK too?? (if you come to Germany, let me know la.. i live in Bonn)
  主題: 婚後不用工作的太太們
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發表版面: 全職爸媽   發表於: Tue Nov 11, 2008 5:39 pm   主題:
我又加入了你們的行列啦。結了婚後,在香港工作了年多,現在跟佬走咗去歐洲。在這邊很難找到全職(尤其是在德語區,我的德文又差),只能做PART TIME。不過除了少了收入,我又沒有甚麼不習慣。
 
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